Hi Parker. Well, I'd say that your in up to your ears alright but it isn't hopeless but I'm sure it seems that way. I know not all parents are the same. I know. I'm a parent of adult kids so I've been through it already. It may seem like they will never look at you the same or ever trust you again. But they will. I think it might help if you were to try to put yourself in their shoes. Here you are smoking reefer and drinking booze. Your mom and dad want you safe and healthy and reefer and booze don't exactly scream safe and healthy do they. More than being angry I would say they are worried and, yes, hurt. Well Parker, I'm here to tell you that people don't worry about other people unless they generally care about that person. No doubt you will have to earn their trust back over time, and please, avoid kissing up to them, we parents really get turned off by that because we know it holds no sincerety. Your, I'm assuming, still a minor unable to care for yourself out in the big, and often times mean, world. This means following the rules. Once your working and out on your own and of legal age you can do as you will and I hope your smart about it cause you may think your mom and step dad are tough but things can get even tougher in the real world. I'm sorry about your friend Abbey but under the circumstances I think you're going to have to ride this out. But, while you are in this situation why not find a hobby or 2, help around the house here and there? For one thing time will pass faster and I'm sure your mom and step dad would appreciate it even if they don't show it at first. And Parker? When you do regain their trust again, and you will, don't break it. Being trusted is an honor and a responsibility. So don't feel hopeless. Feel hopeful because they care enough to lay the hammer down. That's love Parker. Tell me. What is so hopeless about love? Your situation will pass and you will still be loved and cared about. That's a whole lot to be hopeful for in my book. ~D~