My hubby left me about a year ago. I have no idea at this moment why he chose to after we got along the last I ever saw of him, but he did. I struggled with the pain and doubt in myself for quite a while, before the loneliness got to me, and I decided to pursue a committed relationship once again. I met my boyfriend, and was very up front about being married, but going through the process of divorce. He was kind and gentle, and very understanding, at least for a while. Recently he bugged me about the divorce. We have been dating for about five months, but he had seen no serious action taken about the divorce. I blamed it on the lack of money I have been facing, and he dropped the subject. I figured I'd visit my hubby, and talk to him about the divorce. When I got there his mother attacked me verbally, and slandered my name. He and I went off to talk, while his father shouted don't give her money in spanish. I wasn't asking for money, so a part of me found it quite amusing, seeing as I was there to talk about divorce. My husband looked awful, and was far from lucid. I suspect that either drugs or alcohol have played a part in his life. We talked for a very short period of time, and then he handed me the first part of what appears to be a very clean cut no loss divorce. I thought I was happy about this. I don't want to be his wife, but I am upset. I don't understand how this happened, I don't understand why no one tells me about the paper work, I just have to show up and bam here it is? What the hell happened to treating someone as you would want to be treated. I'm not really all that angry at him, I just want to understand his train of thought. Please note, that comprehending his train of thought is difficult, he is certified mentally slow by the state (a fact that was hidden from me until just before he left, as well as the fact that he is super looney tunes!). I don't know how to feel. I also don't know why my bf was bugging me about said divorce, considering he lived with me for a period of time, and knows that the marriage is over. Does anyone have any knowladge or advice they'd care to share?

GPG