thanks for responding...I agree, and do that. I told him to "fake it till you make it" as a strategy that can work. He has been coping on his own for 30 plus years...never had anyone advocate for him. I think maybe over time when he sees I'm still here on his team it will help him lose the shame. I feel like becoming a militant about the issue...a diabetic doesn't go around shamed by their illness. I am new at this sort of thing and a complete computer illiterate, so am having trouble getting around and learning how to post etc. I feel good today and we have played music together.