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Originally Posted by Ellahmae
T and I have sessions all the time where I just talk about the little details of my day about everything, meaningless or not. She listens, comments, shares and sometimes shares her own. I don't think it's abnormal or odd to want to share everything, especially with someone that listens. One thing T said to me that has really always stood out to me and I hold it dear:
"I'm always happy to listen, about anything and everything. You need someone who can show you how much they care by just listening."
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Originally Posted by growlycat
I think you hit the nail on the head for me. I've brought dream material to CBT T and he looked at me like I was a puppy fetching him a rock.
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My T is much more like the second T mentioned here and not the first. He SAYS he wants to focus on actual issues. He does not think therapy should be about "chit chat." When I tried to discuss a dream with him, he told me he thought dreams were just dreams unless they became repetitive.
After saying that however, he has complained when I did not tell him things about my life that I considered not relevant to therapy.
I tend not to tell him much at all about my daily life except to the extent it impacts some therapeutic issue we are working on. I did not tell him when my kids received some prestigious scholarships and both times he found out about it from others in the community (we know a lot of the same people). He actually seemed a little hurt about that. I had some exciting things happen from a career perspective, but again did not mention them. He found out later and wanted to hear about it.
Therapy is very hard for me to figure out. I think there must be some sort of happy medium between not relating any every day stuff, and relating all of your daily stuff. We all just need to keep working toward it, maybe.