talking to someone online is a type of new way to do it, and not get caught. Why is it eating you up? For one you loved your wife when you married her, now you are board. I know talking about sex is somethign you may take offence to, but have you tired anything new in the bedroom?? Have you talked to you wife about being "bored" ????
I had an affair when I was married, and it hurt me and him so badly, We never got over it, and I never forgave myslef for doing it. I was the one in the spot where you are right now...

Ok first off you are not a fraud, you are someone who is confused on what way his life is supposed to go? Talking to your wife would be the frist step.
Second have you had sex even onilne with the female???
Try to understand I am only giving advice, and trying to help you out. ok.
Good luck..

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