When you have a bad habit of being easy to manipulate because you are used to receiving positive attention/ affection on a conditional basis~ and always trying to gauge if you're worth it this time... how do you tell the difference between good intentions and narcissistic head games? one narcissistic tendency in particular, to tell me anything damning to get me to to do something self-destructive, self-destroying because it is supposedly the "righteous" thing to do for having fought it out with them?

When a narcissist is really good at using morality to trap you in obligations to them at your expense, how do you know what morality is anymore?