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Originally Posted by Confusedinomicon
Unfortunately you're going to be met with people who stereotype "gay" and people will pass judgement on the relationship. Can you deal with that? Could your wife?
Did you ever tell her that you were identifying bisexual or does she know you have attractions to guys? (I remember reading posts where you'd said you were bisexual)
I think you need to talk to your therapist about the outcomes of coming out and have realistic expectations of it as they won't all be positive. It might even help to come out and then see if your wife would be willing to have a couple therapy session.
Also what does living more authentically look like? Is it just claiming the identity in social settings or is there more that you're seeking?
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1. I have spent significant time reconciling what could be said and the judgements. Yes, I am going to,deal,with that. My wife...well if she cannot, she will be able to decide to leave.
2. Being bisexual...yes I have told her those words and inside....I feel that was me pretending. Calling myself bisexual was the easy way to be attracted to men yet have my marriage. If people want to label me bisexual...fine....they are all just words.
3. I have had those exact sessions with the therapist. We have discussed the potential outcomes and although I am not happy with them all...I understand they could happen and I will have to deal with them.
4. Yes, this is about identity....not some other motive. I am not seeking gay sex or relations on the side.