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Old Feb 05, 2016, 06:46 PM
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Originally Posted by Ellahmae View Post
T and I have sessions all the time where I just talk about the little details of my day about everything, meaningless or not. She listens, comments, shares and sometimes shares her own. I don't think it's abnormal or odd to want to share everything, especially with someone that listens. One thing T said to me that has really always stood out to me and I hold it dear:

"I'm always happy to listen, about anything and everything. You need someone who can show you how much they care by just listening."
I love what your t said. This is what i think of when stopdog says she did not give them permission to mess with her mind. this is EXACTLY what i gave my t permission to do - to change my brain by caring and listening.

The opposite of this is what i started with - i shared some very mundane steel cut oats with my t, he said they changed his life (perhaps we are both somewhat given to hyperbole) and i thought it meant we should get married - that the oatmeal connection was that strong! Or oatmeal effect. Because when nobody listens to you, then when somebody listens just a little bit - its overwhelmingly important. We shouldnt be let loose on adult society in that needy condition!
Thanks for this!
Ellahmae, rainbow8, skysblue