I opened this thread curious what gay stereotype was going to be discussed. I was confused that the stereotype was that the stereotype was same sex sex. I've tried to think this through and its still very confusing. Nothing wrong with falling in love with someone and it being more powerful than gender sexual preference. I think I get that. That would be a really strong love I would imagine. But then you say you want to come out and if she leaves, she leaves, you're willing risk it and you're willing to risk this for some unknown possibly beneficial anxiety help?

You dont need to be gay to be offended by co-workers using gay slurs or saying offensive homophobic things. If they ignore your protests now they arent suddenly going to respect them more cause you say you're gay. Tell them its obnoxious and to stop it and if they dont go above them. I just feel like if I had a friend who was seemingly happily married and he told me he was gay I would ask if he was leaving his wife and when he said no I would just end up scratching my head wondering how he was gay. Do you see how confusing this is to others? I feel like if this happened to me I'd want to come out too but after 2 weeks I'd be sick of trying to explain my marriage or with hearing rumors.

I agree with the poster who said you dont need to shout it from the rooftops to be who you are. Go to pride parades, tell homophobes to shut up, having a rainbow bumpersticker, dont hide whatever you think will be better by coming out. Do all the things you want to do. I guess Im still confused why you would want to with no big benefit for doing so but lots of possible negatives. If you were saying I need to come out because Im gay and want to start relationships with men, that would be a pretty big benefit but that isnt what you want.