Thank you, unaluna. After sleeping on it, I can see where there is a case to be made for moving him to a long term care facility. I guess I always thought that, if that day came, he would move to a nursing home here, near where we both live . . . and I would visit him there frequently. I never thought he'ld end up leaving this area after so many years living here.

I guess I can't have it both ways. I can't complain that his needs are overwhelming me and, then, complain when others come up with a plan to completely relieve me of all responsibility. I guess I imagined there was a 3rd way - where I got some help with his care. Maybe I've been wrong in what I thought was workable or possible.