Thanks for understanding and giving good advice. He's fast asleep so I don't have a real chance of waking him, not right now.

The doctor actually did dump him when I wrote her to say that her changing the POLST (the medical decisions document) was not legal, following the advice of my T, who is an MD and taught medical ethics, took out time to call colleagues and the local director of hospice, which I forward to the doctor. Instead of just changing the POLST back into my name, she dumped him. Only someone with something to hide or past unethical history would be so reactive.

The doctor I see also knows his doctor and has heard nothing but negative things. He advised me to take legal action. That dumping an old man is unethical and possibly illegal.

She is not a shrink so doesn't know anything about psych meds. In fact, I'm the one who was making changes, which she followed, like getting him off Ambien, which is terrible for seniors. I suggested trazadone, lunesta, melatonin, even benadryl. Nothing worked. He was not sleeping at all. For like months!

I have written a certified letter to her with a list of all the issues, including abuse, but all the other ones because according to my T that qualifies him for services. His fancy doctor ignored it. She charges a flat fee of more that 5k when she's gone for months at a time, even when he is hospitalized, delirious, delusional, and nearly died. She's in it for the money.

This med is just a strong version of Remeron. He takes it at night but still doesn't sleep. the accident was in the evening, long after he took it so I'm not sure that it is his fault. He is taking it as prescribed, had not been drinking (another issue the doc won't address), and had had some coffee before he drove. It's not really his fault if the doctor prescribed something that is too strong, has side-effects, and probably interacts with the tons of meds he's on, is it?

He does have a new doctor, but he won't see her till later. That is yet another complication. This new doctor was my own when my spouse attacked me drunk and on Ambien so he doesn't remember. I had serious knee sprains, needed a total knee replacement. When I went to her because she's a mandated reporter, she made me wait till after she saw all her patients only to tell me that she refused to file a police report.

Because once again there was no police report and he did not remember what he did, I got accused of elder abuse, went to a women's shelter where they refused to help me, so ended up in court on crutches defending myself and got move out orders. Such is justice.