(((((((lilith)))))))) i so understand how you feel. i helped my mom and grandma take care of my grandpa years ago, when he had alzhiemer's. we even had a caregiver come twice every week (or more if necessary). one time, i was alone with my grandma and i was helping her get him ready for bed when he suddenly wouldn't stand anymore. i was strong enough to just ease him to the floor. since my grandma is old and i had bad knees at that time, we called the medics to come and lift him into the bed. you can't catch a person, but easing them down can still be risky. my grandpa passed away in his home 4 years ago. we did the best we could to keep him comfortable. lilith, you are not a failure. you need rest. without rest, you wouldn't be able to care for nancy. seriously. i commend you, though. if i was in her position, i wouldn't want my fall or condition to hurt my loved ones. i would want them to rest.