Hi! I am new here but came because I have almost identical situation and feeling. Marriage of same duration. Three kids. Tight finances (although right now neither of us works but that cannot continue) and things that drew us together ante now seemingly the things that are driving is apart and I am vey scared and sad especially for the kids who are surely hurting.

We have marriage counselor and I suspect that divorce and settlement would be on consent and amicable but still many overwhelming and scary questions. I feel for you and empathize and hope that as the pain turns we can share and lighten load for everybody.