i can relate to what you say. years ago, i used to know several others. when things changed during a certain time frame, they all went quiet. years later now, some still come around but in more subtle ways and don't feel like the ones i knew years ago. it is confusing for me. i also don't know who they really are or if they are ones i used to know but have kind of blocked things more so i don't know them or can't figure out who they are.

i don't struggle in the same way as you though where they will take over, it's more like passive influence, thoughts, feelings, sometimes images, etc. but i do find i am not as present overall as months ago. i am not really able to keep as accurate of a timeline of the past weeks, though i know what things were done. i just don't know what days, if it was three days ago or a week ago or so, etc. which really doesn't even matter thankfully since i work from home so it doesn't disrupt as much as it would if i had to work around people. i find that the more i have to be out in the world around people, the more stress, anxiety, and triggers come up, and the more the dissociation will happen as well as the others being more active.

it is difficult having the system change and trying to figure things out when it does. maybe over more time, you will be able to learn more about them and talk more with them so you can get to know them and have things maybe more cohesive with them.