It sounds like your dad really just needed to get out of there. Your mom sounds completely overbearing and needy. Especially at the very end when you said that she wants you kids to support HER. A parent needs to help there kids thrive and start a life of there own. It seems like you are the one mothering her. I would move out asap and get on my feet by any means possible. You said that you've been more so off work than in and your moms ok with it? You need to find where your own lack of motivation comes from. Maybe from her? I'm an adult in my late twenties and even though I don't live at home, my dad always has nagged me to thrive and be an adult. Especially when I'm sick from my BP with no motivation at all. Although it's annoying, it's probably healthy to an extent. But I admit he has seen me go down the rabbit hole a few times. You can either stay with your mom and continue to be dependent on her or you can get a job and live your own life. I would chose to get away from her.

As far as the bad mouthing your parents go to each other, your correct that it isn't right. My bf's ex wife is a drugged out lazy mess but I never talk bad about her to his two young boys. Sure I do to him. He's another adult. But when he even starts to speak down about her in front of the kids I stop him. Her on the other hand will talk bad about me and him to the kids all day long but they aren't dumb. They don't believe her and hate when she does it. Even though they're young, they're smart. They recognize bad mouthing as jealousy and childish.

Does your mom have any type of MI that makes her so unmotivated and dependent? Can you talk to her about seeking therapy? I wish you the best of luck and hope you can get on your own two feet soon and get out of there. Don't ever take her guilt tripping seriously or prevent you from becoming your own person!

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