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Originally Posted by Raindropvampire
I always look at questions like that as me VS a completely healthy person. SO the fact that you have dietary/preparation restrictions whereas a completely healthy person would not...IMHO I'd rate that as moderate to severe probably erring on the side of severe.
When I was helping hubby fill out his disability papers that was what his doc and Pdoc told us, don't look at it as you look at it as you VS a perfectly healthy person. Because hubby had been ill so long we'd made so many "systems" to help him through his day that to us we'd rate things at none or mild and the doc would throw an absolute hissy fit saying that it was severe. That if a healthy person had to go through the processes he did they would think it was a major impairment.
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It made tremendous sense and was very helpful. I can work with that and such advice works for many questions...so thank you for many answers. I still have other questions to which the advice doesn't seem to work (for me), so I'd like to ask about those too. I don't want to hold you hostage though, so if you choose to bow out, I understand...anyone is free to help - and I'm very grateful for any help I get.
There is a section called, 'Getting along with people' - section D. Here are the questions, the answers remain the same - mild to extreme/can't do.
D4.1 Dealing with people you do not know.
D4.2 Maintaining a friendship.
D4.3 Getting along with people who are close to you.
D4.4 Making new friends.
D4.5 Sexual activities.
D4.1 Dealing with people you do not know.
What does 'dealing' mean in this context? And referring to the amount of 'difficulty' - are they asking whether or not you can successfully do it, or are they asking what it costs you emotionally? I have given hundreds of paid presentations from the American Psychiatric Association to the FBI to an infomercial I starred in. I am incredibly competent - but I'll go sit in a closet for two hours afterwards detoxing from the experience. The 'dealing with' is relatively seamless - I just put on the mask and press play. The emotional toll however, is stratospheric.
I can't apply the "me vs a normal person" guide because versus a normal person, I am much more competent in getting it done successfully, but I pay a much higher price than a normal person...at least I assume I do, I don't know what others feel.
D4.2 Maintaining a friendship.
The section heading says, "dealing with people", in other words, people plural. I've had one friend in my life and I've maintained that for thirty years. She's my wife. I could write a lengthy explanation on this, but I think maybe my problem figuring out how to answer this is obvious. Part of me wants to answer 'none', because I have successfully done this - but part of me thinks I should answer 'severe' because versus a normal person, only ever having only one friend is abnormal.
D4.3 Getting along with people who are close to you.
Again, does one constitute 'people' - plural? In thirty years I have never had a fight with my wife, or even a serious disagreement. So 'none' if one person qualifies.
D4.4 Making new friends.
I don't want new friends. I suppose I could do it easily if I wanted them...but is someone a friend if you have to detox from the time spent with them? I'm going to skip the last question - not because I have the answer but it's tmi.
Thanks to anyone who can help.