Thanks for the reply, AllHeart. I have done the note twice before with my previous T, and it worked once. But it also didn't work once. I think it just became a more physical vs mental battle, of actually forcing myself to pull it from my pocket and hand it over...and then regretting it during the terrible expanse of time as T read it.

I'm willing to try it again...

Any other suggestions in case I can't actually hand the note to them?