I feel like what I really need in my life is to form my identity. And you need a social circle to do that.

What I'm really asking is how you are supposed to deal with it when a person in your social circle starts being hostile towards you in order to not look like a loser. I feel like this sort of thing tends to only happen to people who are socially inept so there really isn't an example of how a normal, well-liked person would react. Perhaps the fact that she is treating me this way is simply confirmation that I am a loser and that I can't expect to be socially accepted and liked by these people.

I find it really sad that this sort of thing is still happening to me as a 20something adult. For a while I thought that by now people would have grown up and I would no longer have to worry about being singled out and ostracized by social groups.