My mother was always very intrusive no boundaries.I remember my dad had a locked closet with personal stuff in it but it was just like his art work (he's private like me and he also had a thing about lockng doors from pretty bad stuff happening to him as a kid) and it drove her crazy. They divorced can't imagine why lol
Had to move back in due to circumstances and it was with two children this time. What I learned...,people this intrusive do not change. Now I want a lock on my bedroom door but wasn't allowed (!?)
Its been a nightmare so I'm working on getting out
So basically my advice get out now and make sure you never have to go back