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Originally Posted by Andy T
Hi,
I'm new to this site and am looking for support in learning to improve my behaviour in my marriage. To put it succinctly at this point. I've been passive-aggressive in many ways, have had temper tantrums for the past three years (last one was a couple of months ago), and have lied repeatedly.
It's been a struggle to understand the core issue behind all this but I believe that it is narcissistic aggression - I want to be in a superior position whereby my wife pampers my ego and is never critical otherwise I want to punish her in all the ways I've mentioned.
Does this pattern resonate with anyone here? I'd like to converse with others who have or had similar problems.
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I've had similar issues. Although lying hasn't been that much of an issue for me (if anything, she has an issue with being completely transparent and genuine). I have thrown tantrums, try to make everything about me, and can be and have been passive-aggressive.
It's also helped me to practice philosophy, but my choice is Stoicism.
It may be a little different for me, because I know my wife isn't perfect. The way is see it is that we're both imperfect people who are attempting to work together in our marriage. When she screws up, I let her know it, as directly (and kindly) as I can. And I expect nothing less from her.