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Old Feb 08, 2016, 08:35 AM
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Originally Posted by Andy T View Post
Hi,
I'm new to this site and am looking for support in learning to improve my behaviour in my marriage. To put it succinctly at this point. I've been passive-aggressive in many ways, have had temper tantrums for the past three years (last one was a couple of months ago), and have lied repeatedly.

It's been a struggle to understand the core issue behind all this but I believe that it is narcissistic aggression - I want to be in a superior position whereby my wife pampers my ego and is never critical otherwise I want to punish her in all the ways I've mentioned.

Does this pattern resonate with anyone here? I'd like to converse with others who have or had similar problems.
I've had similar issues. Although lying hasn't been that much of an issue for me (if anything, she has an issue with being completely transparent and genuine). I have thrown tantrums, try to make everything about me, and can be and have been passive-aggressive.

It's also helped me to practice philosophy, but my choice is Stoicism.

It may be a little different for me, because I know my wife isn't perfect. The way is see it is that we're both imperfect people who are attempting to work together in our marriage. When she screws up, I let her know it, as directly (and kindly) as I can. And I expect nothing less from her.
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