Thanks, Fuzzy..
It's actually NOT a hard decision as I've come to the point where I want peace of mind. I just don't know what to say to him regarding his visit here. Should I say I'll be gone, or just tell him the truth about my current mindset? I really don't know what to do. We do have a valid connection with our impoverished upbringings in rural coal mining Appalachia, and our long history thru high school and college. He has stated in his emails that he wanted to marry me, but that is not the truth. He went on to Harvard and truly looked down on me. In later life, we reconnected, but I know in my heart, he would never have married me. He married UP! I don't want to deal with it any more.
Patty