I've been where you are Rhap. . .and the only thing I can tell you is what someone wisely told me all those years ago.

Men are unique creatures to begin with. Don't ever try to measure him. . .lol. . .but you probably already know that anyway. The ONLY thing that you can do is continue to grow in your own development and don't worry about being "unequally yoked" b/c if he is a Christian (and you said he is) then are you ARE equally yoked. Unfortunately, it's just your turn to carry the heavier end of the yoke. It sucks for you, I know.

Consider marriage like any other investment, you know? you guys have paid into it over the years; you'll continue to do so for many more years. So. . .sometimes you're able to pay more into it, sometimes he is. When one of you can't, that's why the *interest* is there, you know? You get to *borrow* on that when you need to.

I know this isn't really helpful sometimes when you are feeling like you're the only one doing the right thing.

If you ever want to chat, PM me. DH and I went through something VERY similar in the last four years. We made it through though. . .I'm not an expert by any means, but I've walked this road.