I agree with the last two posters. Your identity is something INDIVIDUAL that YOU need to develop on your own. The fact that you haven't really figured out who you are or what your talents are is probably impacting your ability to connect with others. If you don't have hobbies, interests, or talents that you are passionate about, you will have less to talk about and to less to connect with others over. People make friends based on shared interests, hobbies, and beliefs. Until you have some of those, you will probably struggle to find things to talk to other people about. What is interesting to you? What do you care about? What are you good at? Finding those things will also really help your self-esteem, whether you make more friends or not. Everyone needs to take pride in their skills or accomplishments to feel like they matter, or they make a difference in the world. Once you find those things, you will be happier and feel better about yourself and have an easier time drawing others towards you.

You are SO focused on finding those social connections that you might come off as desperate, and that might be pushing others away, too. Or you just may not have much to say, which makes it hard for others to find any commonality with you.