Well, I identify with what you describe, and I have a Dx of spd.
The problem is not about having fantasy, which is part of being human, but that fantasy can take over from reality, and take one right out of reality, and that does happen for me. I also 'think outside the box', and that means I ask questions that others dont seem so interested in, and that makes me feel lonely.
In fact, my experience is in so many groups of other humans that I am an outsider, that others dont share the passions and concerns that I have.
Since I have understood that these painful expereinces are connected to the pd, and all the history that goes with it, I am a little bit comforted by the knowledge. But I want to solve my problem and be able to have deep and real relationships with others. I have to keep working at that, it seems like a lonely or impossible struggle at times, only I just know I have no choice but to continue to explore and try.

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