When we're depressed it's easy to over analyze and to be hurt by things people say to us. I have that problem myself, anything said to me I tend to overthink it.

My only suggestion is to go by your own gut, what does it tell you? Like Onward said, reflect on what you want, not what is suggested by others. This female minister can't possibly know you the way you know yourself. People often want to give advice, and think they know better than we do ourselves. It's hard doubting yourself. The worst possible outcome, you could meet, realize he isn't for you, and go your own ways. Or you might hit it off and have a new friend. We all need friends and getting out when you're depressed can be difficult, but for me, I found it to help me even though I resisted and wanted to withdraw. Best wishes to you.