I'm sorry you and your husband are having a hard time with this. It's really tough when people don't realize exactly how hard this is for us, especially when we know it isn't rational but still have to do it. I've been doing a lot better with medication, but I know what you're feeling. And like you, the less sleep I get , the more wired and irrational my brain gets.

I hope you find something that gives you a little rest

(((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))