It sounds like your husband isn't the best person to take these issues to, because he doesn't get it the way you do. I'm guessing that when you go to him, you aren't looking for practical advice so much as you want to be heard.

I also hate being in group photos and don't like being hugged. Sometimes I will put my hand up in front of my face to block the photo, other times I will ask not to be photographed, sometimes I will just go along with it because saying something or moving is too hard. I'm trying to become more relaxed about that stuff because I do think it can be off putting for others. As I get older, I'm realizing that I can't have X without giving up a little Y, I guess, and I'd rather have X than Y.

So, yeah, everything yagr said