I can tell you that I have been in similar situations with my T and reacted pretty much the same as you. I too retreat but was able to eventually talk to T about it. She was always accepting of my feelings, although in the long wrong I'm not sure if she every took true responsibility for her role in situations like these.
You will probably feel better by atleast telling her how you feel and not retreating, that's atleast been my experience.
Good luck