I think those guys constantly move the ball. The ones I see keep going on about me not being dependent enough - others of those guys apparently set the field up so clients become dependent then chastise the client for doing so. And rarely do any of them explain anything about it (in fact, some of their literature and texts teach being deliberately unclear) so the client is left floundering and confused and shamed.

I have no idea about love and therapy as it does not come up for me.