jen....i feel for you. i was raped by my dad and he did other things, too. i understand. there is one other option you can think about. i'm not into preaching and will not preach because everyone has their own beliefs. i want you to know about it because it did help me in a huge way. when a perpetuator gets away with a crime, he never gets away from the higher power, your god, if you believe in one. i will say no more, since i do not want to create a debate. i hope this helps you.