With me it usually revolves around the bedroom. That is something I'm trying to work on. He's told me before that he felt I just wanted sex from him & that's it. He doesn't always want to have sex, to him once a week is fine or once in a week and half is fine. I would always pressure him into having sex with me even if he didn't want it. I was obsessing over sex. My psychiatrist told me this is probably part of my bipolar disorder. I equated sex to him loving me. I mean we resolved it & he did admit that he was the one being selfish. I talked to my therapist this morning about it & he helped me a lot with it. We're working on me letting things go. But it's so hard for me to! I know I need to let this go because we already have discussed it & resolved it. But to me it's not resolved I guess. My therapist said that what I'm doing is making this about me when it's really about him. That just because he said this doesn't mean he loves me any less. And he is completely right because that is what I do I think why would he say this and think this way if he truly felt this way that means he doesn't love me. When in reality he does love me and care for me but he has his opinions as well it doesn't mean that he's going to act on them though he respects that I am not into this only giving him pleasure every once in a while and not worrying about me. He told me he is completely fine with this & that he was just messing with me. I honestly don't know if I believe him with the just messing with me part but I will not just give him pleasure and not have my pleasure as well. I have a say in this relationship as well and he can't make me or force me to do anything that I don't want to do.