I'm not sure I understand your situation, but on the whole I find it a little exasperating when people tell others they have to stop being in relationships etc. I think people just take it way too seriously, is all. I think obviously you have to make you have a balanced life and that you're not expecting to get more from a relationship than it will offer, otherwise you could find yourself unhappy, but really a lot of people online (never come across this attitude in real life) treat relationships and dating with the seriousness of bomb disposal. You find it everywhere; Reddit even. It's weird. Do what you want, OP. Your life, innit.