You can have anything you want in life, but you can't have everything. Since you don't have the marriage right now, perhaps focus on the other things you would like to do in life. Would you like to travel? Well, family commitments can throw a monkey wrench into that goal. School? And extra class or two on the side might fit into your life well right now. And while you are busy doing these other things - you just might meet the person you want to spend the rest of your life with - after all, they have some of the same interests.