I've gained so much. I can't pinpoint most of it...um, not always having to be childish and having to be wanted by others, I don't care now so much, I am who i am.
Also, I am really starting to understand why I've behaved in certain ways all my life, and awareness is doing it's own work and this is changing.
I am discovering that I can look after me, and that's good enough because I am good enough.
I hope to gain more understanding of how I repeat patterns in relationships, and how I can be in relationship without manipulating and playing games. But the fact that I know this is progress indeed.
Yay, a lovely thread idea, I hadn't realised any of the above until you asked Petra, thank you!