No judgment from me, I promise.


His partner is putting pressure on him to not meet her family.

He is ready for this. Period.

People are different, even people who are meant to be together forever. You want him to honor your comfort zone around this and he wants you to honor his comfort zone about this. How you both eventually deal with this will say a lot about your problem solving abilities as a couple. Does someone have to win? Then that'll probably be the template for your relationship. Are you both willing to compromise? Then that'll probably be the template for your relationship. Maybe someone is willing to sacrifice? Maybe both of you are?


It's all relative - Goldilock's wisdom. Anyone who drives faster than me is a maniac. Anyone who drives slower than me is an idiot. Fast is relative - it's probably not too fast for him.


Don't know. But I do find it more helpful in my own relationship to try and determine why *I* have this or that need. Because ultimately, I'm the only one I can change.