I have stopped pressuring him when he told me that I was doing it. I apologized to him & have told him that I would not ennitiate it anymore. I think sex is a trigger for me. I have been doing better about not obsessing over it. I also have not enitiated it for 2 1/2 weeks. I've been working with my therapist on this.
I am happy in my relationship with him I just hate how I get things stuck in my head & I can't get them out.