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Originally Posted by JustJenny
Does she get angry easily? Do you fight often?
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Yes but her anger does not last too long. I'm more worried then she worry too much. We sometimes fight, but I usually try apologize first. She is very sarcastic, sometimes I love it but sometimes it annoy me. But shy didn't have distance and take everything personally.
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Originally Posted by littleowl2006
Are you the sole wage earner? I hear a lot of pressure from what you wrote.
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I'm not sole wage earner, she get money from maternity leave. We have 12 month maternity leave. But its only 80% of her salary. She stay in home with our daughter, our son go to nursery.
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Originally Posted by littleowl2006
How do you think your girlfriend would react if you were honest about the uncomfortable things? Are you afraid that she might leave you etc?
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Yes I have some thoughts like that. When we quarrel
some time ago she told me few times that shy leave me if I didn't change. I know that she want have an positive impact on me but the effect was the opposite.
Week ago I tell her some uncomfortable things. And I felt relieved. She pass it better than I think.
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Originally Posted by littleowl2006
I worried constantly because I felt that something was wrong but he wouldn't tell me. I would have loved to be there for him and it made me sad that he didn't trust me.
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Yes I know that she probably often worry very much, even I didn't tell her uncomfortable things. But I know that I need make more good things. My lack of concentration and procrastination (or maybe just laziness) piss me off. I realized than music help me a lot. And starting its hardest part of tasks.
I read something about personality distorters and that from Antisocial and unfortunately I think that two points fits me:
- impulsivity or failure to plan ahead
- consistent irresponsibility, as indicated by repeated failure to sustain consistent work behavior or honor financial obligations
I try fight with that behaviors. But It's not easy.