stormy...something kinda made me wonder....you said your husband does not provide for you emotionally...however before that you said you finally decided to speak up for the first time...and that his reaction was surprise...but in the end his resulting attitude was a good supportive one...perhaps your mistaking his ignorance towards your emotional self due to the fact you dont share your inner feelings with him? Im not sure the situation...but from what you say...it seems your not open with him about your inner mental wellness...you cannot really expect him to expect anything wrong and to help fix it and support you if you dont tell him....most guys need a major...i need help ....a tell it to his face kinda thing otherwise he will miss it....i dont know...i think another thing might be that he wants to support you and shows that by saying no matter what he costs but he is at a loss for where to start looking for help...to start looking for a therapist that speaks english....and that he figures that if you have done this much individual brain work on yourself that you have a candidate in mind? Or that your current pyschiatrist will have an automatic answer...tell him you have no idea where to look...and ask if he could help you....to me from what you say it sounds like he is supportive but due to lack of communication you feel unsupported and not taken care of emotionally....perhaps a marriage counciler might be in the future? What about moving back near home....i mean tell him the strain living in china and living with people who do not speak english is rough and if he could arrange to live somewhere more....compatiable....would be approperiate...and available...good luck...trust him...and communciate ...