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Originally Posted by doogie
My T says I am beautiful, but I don't think she means it in a physical sense as much as she means it in a "whole person" sense. She is trying to get me to see myself in the same way, for some context on why she would say that. It does feel odd, only because I see myself as the complete opposite of a "beautiful person."
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Originally Posted by Brown Owl
I would feel ok if my T said it, to me it would express something about me being ok. I wouldn't think about it being specifically about physical appearance, but about my presence being ok.
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This is precisely how I would take it. Ordinarily.
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Originally Posted by AllHeart
My t and I both compliment each other often with harmless, self-boosting remarks such as, "you are beautiful" and "you look fantastic!" Nothing weird or uncomfortable about it. The specific word attractive hasn't been used but if it were, no biggie. Maybe being of an older age allows me to be more receptive to and appreciative of such things.
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I guess it really depends on the context, but attractive is putting it mildly. If you were really trying to show an appreciation for someone's beauty then I think beautiful or gorgeous are the way to go.
My personal interpretation would be if he said I'm attractive, it's not that he personally sees me as attractive, but that to the general public, in the scheme of things, I would be considered attractive.
I KNOW my therapist called me beautiful. I can't remember if it was I was a beautiful woman or beautiful person. Either way it struck a nerve only because of my own issues. I'm willing to admit on a good day I'm attractive or pretty. To call me beautiful (in the physical sense) to me means you're LYING to me, and for that matter, this isn't that far off the mark if you say I'm a beautiful person. I FEEL like a fvck up who has made so many mistakes in relationships so that "beautiful person" doesn't fit either.
Amazing that the word beautiful could make me feel crummy. Especially from someone I like and respect.