I ask about these things because abusive, controlling guys tend to demand that things move very fast. It doesn't mean that this guy is going to be controlling; it is just important to be aware of warning signs, and assess them.

You could ask him. I think that would be a good idea.

In my view it is important to think about why important others are acting the way that they are. It is true that you cannot change them. However, to decide how you should act, you need to understand what other people are trying to accomplish.