Thanks, Hun. I know that letter that hubby wrote to John is awful! But like he said, it's been a long time coming. However, it's no excuse to sand bag.

It may seem that he's stuck between me and his wife and maybe he is. My intent, though, was to remind him of his basic values and principles that he learned while growing up. Believe it or not, I DO love his wife! She has a way of getting under you skin and I understand her position of "This is my family and I know what's best for them." I've told her so. I was like that, too, when my family was young. What frustrates me is that she won't accept the fact that I've learned better ways of taking care of myself and know better ways of doing some things. Yes, I know the younger generation is like that. It falls under the heading of "Making My Own Mistakes." Something else she doesn't understand is boundaries. Her family of origin is so dang enmessed! She thinks she can run over us like she does them and them on her and my son! It's not going to happen anymore, though. At this point in time, for me, it's a toss-up; holding my (our) boundaries or the grandkids. I'm between a rock and a hard place! Giving up either one is not acceptable.