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Originally Posted by SarahSweden
Yes perhaps but thatīs a quite an err if so, of course I need to know about her agenda and plans. Not that she just "runs her own game" and expect me to follow without questions.
To me itīs the opposite about the time, itīs not att all respectful to take time to scheduling issues as I have only 45 minutes a week to see her and to talk about the stuff I need.
Respectful had been if she said something like "we need some extra minutes to talk about the schedule and Iīll add time at the end". Because this wasnīt just looking for a next time for appointment as she has almost no free sessions during the week. It took several minutes and then she expects me to just jump into whatever subject she thinks.
Itīs not neccesary to schedule through the secrataries but in such a case like this, when itīs hard to find available appointments, I think itīs wiser to save that time and ask a secretary to phone or e-mail the client about scheduling.
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I don't find it to be a big deal if my counsellor doesn't outline for me exactly what he's doing and why - he doesn't usually and when I want to know the point I can ask. If he explained it all he'd be wasting my time. Seeing as your thread is mostly about time.... That might be what she is doing. Trying to maximize your time together. Have you told her what you want? You're still new with her and she can't read your mind. She just seems to have a different style than you, so you need to clearly let her know (from what I've read I'm thinking that you haven't done that, if you have then I'm sorry)
She has no way to know that you are fine with scheduling via the phone. A lot of people (this forum is a prime example) basically lose it when their t changes schedules and doesn't tell them personally. Did you say "ok, I'll work it out with reception later then"? Or did you just go along with it? If you stated that you would deal with reception then yeah it was rude of her to ignore that, but if you didn't then she was just being respectful.
I'm sorry that you are so upset with her, but it sounds like she was doing what she could to be respectful based around what is commonly wanted. You just have different needs and expectations and she obviously doesn't know them yet.