I donīt think it must be about having right or having wrong, itīs about feeling scared and frustrated that you wonīt be accepted in therapy if you share critique.
I have never told a T they did their job incorrectly but I think itīs given that you should be able to express yourself and what bothers you in therapy. Besides, it isnīt personal, itīs about things that happen in therapy and for me itīs only unprofessional if a T canīt handle those things.
And whatīs the alternative to express what you feel about a T? To just adapt to him/her, whatīs the point in that? You reason like a T is a flawless role model that you shouldnīt question because if you do youīll be sorry if he or she ends therapy.
Itīs also impossible to know how to show that you are aware about an attitude you have. I think the client is whoever he/she is and as long as you donīt threaten or behave badly, like always being late or such, itīs up to the T to help you to bring light to different problems. Itīs not up to the client to try to find out how you should choose a suiting attitude towards a T, it would just be acting.
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Originally Posted by unaluna
Because sarahs attitude toward this current t is almost exactly the same as her attitude towards her previous t, and similar to your attitude toward ts - that the fault is the ts. Then the client (you, sarah, whoever) tell the t that you think they are doing their job incorrectly. Then the t tells the client, maybe we are not a good match. Then the client does not get the help they had once hoped to get from the t.
I understand the impulse to tell the t they are not doing a good job. It often comes from having ineffective parents who perhaps put your life at risk. The t needs to know that YOU ARE AWARE that you have this deservedly negative and fearful attitude and want to change it in yourself, even if you dont always act like it. But if you go in there thinking that the t is the one who has to change in order for you to feel better - that would not be ethical. That would be like literally giving you a fish and letting you eat for a day, instead of teaching you how to fish in the world.
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