I absolutely agree with you but a therapist also has the right to conduct therapy the way she want to and she can even not be open to change. When that happens, I don't think we can be angry when they refer us out by saying, "I don't think I'm the right therapist for you."

Personally, I'm only interested in working with one who is open to hearing my ideas about what works for me, but it is my responsibility to let her know what isn't working. If she decides she ain't changing, and I know that I'm not changing, then it's time for one of us to hit the road . . . and since it's her office, I guess that would be me!