I think that part of therapy is learning how to set healthy boundaries for ourselves. I don't think that the therapeutic relationship is exempt from that. As close as I feel to my t, I have very vocally set boundaries with her - for instance when she tried to get me to do role play where we would change places and she would speak as me and I would speak as my h. I said quite loudly and forcefully "NO!" and she backed off and hasn't mentioned it since.

eta: i'm sorry you are hurting over this.