Hello Junerain -- Don't get me started on the subject of "brothers." Oh, brother. Of course, as pointed out, we can't have all the details of what's going on. But as a rule of thumb, the definition of going to therapy would be confronting one's thoughts and feelings and "not thinking about them" is denial and running away.

As for not going to church -- people have been comfort from religion and spirituality for thousands of years. What does your brother suggest you do? Go the movies? To hear a rock band? And that's more important than what? Spending time with your Lord?

It can be hard to confront family members, esp. males whose egos get so bound up in being right. One T. that I briefly saw said she had several sayings that she told all her clients and one of them was, "Just because someone says it doesn't mean it's true." Can be very challenging to apply, but good rule of thumb.