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Old Feb 11, 2016, 10:56 PM
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Originally Posted by BudFox View Post
I wonder if people are aware how much lecturing and advising and even scolding is coming out in this thread. I find it disturbing. Go back and look at the initial post. The OP is having a hard time in therapy and is mainly venting. No advice was solicited, no questions asked.

Further, much of what Sarah reported as having been distressing in the T's behavior has been deflected back to her, reflexively and seemingly unconsciously. I see this as a manifestation of people having internalized therapy norms, and then regurg'ing them unedited, or projection of some covert shame. Just as in therapy, if someone is struggling or hurting, they are assumed to be lost and in need of instruction. No acknowledgment of the very real possibly that the T is in fact doing something annoying or upsetting. Or just that the nature of therapy is crazy-making.

My kind of support gives benefit of the doubt to the poster and assumes they are competent and smart and aware. I know... crazy, right?

Discuss...
A lot of us remember going thru this same sort of thing with sarah over the past year or so. If we see her rushing back into the same burning house, how do we properly support her? I dont think that finding fault with the therapist, after trying for so long to find one, is going to help her find love or find work. Finding fault with the therapist is easy; fixing your problems is much harder. Whats the expression - a poor craftsman blames his tools. I hated my t for the first three years - its part of the work; its not necessarily a reason to quit.
Thanks for this!
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