My husband and my closest "couple friends" have recently divorced and I am having a difficult time with knowing how to be friends with both. They are definately NOT friends with each other, the male is my hubbie's best friend of 10+ years so his loyalty lies with him, naturally. I am trying to remain nuetral and stay friends with both but it's difficult.

My question is this: my friend (the woman) confided in me recently that she has been seeing the man that she messed around with while married- a situation that got the ball rolling on her leaving her husband. She asked me not to tell my husband or her ex. I told her I would not, as she has been there for me in the past and I would hate if she or others were to betray my trust. But it feels weird witholding this from my husband. But I also feel that he would judge, be angry, and possibly tell his friend and others and she would be "shunned" from the social connections she is working on rebuilding. I feel that it is not my place to tell anyone, nor is it necessarily anyone's business- they are divorced now afterall. It's just difficult to keep such a big secret from my husband. And, when it does come out in the future, they will know I knew and was lying to them.

Please, any suggestions- I'm really struggling with this!

Also, I will be in a social situation this Friday where I will be seeing both of them. I am very nervous on how to act, who to talk to, etc. I will not be able to be myself and will feel like every move I make is a "strategic decision" of some sort.