A close friend of mine who used to talk to me regularly recently had not been on skype for 5 days. That is very unlike him. He had never been offline for that long, and even if he had periods where he was, he'd notify me of what he was going to be offline for. He did not do that at all this time, so I really started to worry that something had happened to him...or that he was now starting to dislike me. I messaged his girlfriend asking if he was alright, and she said "yeah, gimme one second." A minute later he appeared on skype and said hi. I asked where he had been and he told me he got busy with work, was tired in the evenings, and therefore has not been online much. This sounds reasonable of course but I'm very suspicious because his job has always been very, very undemanding. He'd talk to me all the time while at work. I know things change but I highly doubt that they changed so soon...and why didn't he notify me? He then said "I have to go back to work now. Bye." which is also very unlike him to say. He is usually much warmer in demeanor and doesn't just leave like that. I think that he really doesn't care about me anymore because 2 ish weeks ago we had an argument (really stupid argument that he started) and he has been much more distant ever since, despite my attempts to keep things as close as they were before. I feel that this behavior isn't something that should occur between two close friends...

I understand that with BPD comes a fear of abandonment...but am I being unreasonable? It's kind of hard for me to convey how cold he is acting because you'd have to know him. I'm just very, very upset - angry even, because things like this have been happening for years, and whenever I try to salvage the friendship, things still go downhill. I'm so sick of losing close friends. I need closeness in my life, especially with where I am right now. I feel so alone despite having my boyfriend whom I live with.