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Originally Posted by clover1011
Alright, I'm sorry I sounded so dramatic and all but when I was writing that I was just going crazy because my mom tells me to express my feelings more but when I tried doing that and pointing out what she does wrong she denied it and said its about me.
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Sounds exactly like my mother, when I was a teenager. I'd never open up to her because I knew it was pointless, but she would insist and even threat me to "spill it out or else", but whatever I said in the end was like ammunition for her to use against me.
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Originally Posted by clover1011
The main problem is my mom I think, because she always has no problems doing everything quickly, and she gets stuff done with ease but the problem is that when I try to help her, it's like she's telling me to do 2 things at once! And the problem is I can't do that like she can and she thinks I'm lazy because I stopped helping her with stuff but that's because she's way too demanding of me and that's how a lot of the arguments start.
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I'm beginning to think that my mother and yours are clones. When I was a teenager I learned (eventually) to do things the way she did and at the pace she considered good enough, but my poor sister, oh boy, she just couldn't keep up and was often verbally abused because of that.
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Of course the problem is not you, and it's not your fault that you were born into such a dysfunctional family. Also it seems to me that your parents have untreated mental health issues, and as it's often the case with people who think "
parents = godlike creatures uncapable of wrongdoing", they'll never admit that and seek help. Typical.
But take heart, you're not going to be around them forever and soon enough you'll have your independence, and hopefuly in the future you'll be able to make things right and start your own family your own way, preferably not commiting the same mistakes they did to you.
Good luck!
